Applauding Your Students

 Fast Llamas,

Today we are talking about what Tom Bennett calls the best extrinsic reward available to you... and it's free...

Praise... today we are talking about praise, how it works and how to be more purposeful when giving it.  I will be breaking down a part of Bennett's book, Running the Room Chapter 12, Rewards.  Running the Room has been an excellent read... poignant, realistic, and intelligent.  I highly recommend it.  

Everyone wants to be recognized, to be valued, to be noticed, to be acknowledged.  They then know they matter and you matter to them.

If you are thinking that you don't believe in praising kids for "doing the right thing" and "they should already know how to behave" or of the mindset that you are not in education for students to "like me" or "be their friend".  Well, honestly if you have that mindset you probably aren't here reading anyway.  But, if you are, I didn't want to friends with my students either,(they had plenty of their own friends and so did I) nor did the "have to like me".  I am sure that out of the thousands of students I have taught, there were lots of kids who didn't like me... (maybe they didn't like science, maybe I reminded them of someone they disliked, they didn't like my jokes or my music, or maybe a thousands things...) And, honestly, there were a few I didn't like myself.  But, I made sure they never knew it.  When you are consistent, fair, and recognize student effort, guess what?  they will end up liking you.  When students like you for these reasons, they bake for you as my husband would attest to going "shopping" for treats I brought home the day we got out for Christmas vacation.  I will say that I am friends on social media for many ex-students (and I few that I ended up teaching alongside).  And I evidently meet ex-students all the time... The message here?  Did they like my class? Do they remember me fondly? In the very tough years of middle school, was my class a place they wanted to be and feel safe?

Let's talk about Tom Bennett's advice.  

In order for praise for be effective it should be...

• sincere
• honest and deserved... you believe it and so does the student
• proportionate
• don't gush, not everything is "fantastic"
• targeted
• feedback is king here - "your report was good because..." give the feedback with specific content tied to it... 

Be mindful:

• The middle bubble - kids who are compliant and do what they should, they need praise
• The very poorly behaved - don't focus on them solely
• The very well behaved - don't over praise - it can lead to the opposite effect and normalize mediocrity
• Effect Praise requires us to know our students very well.
• Watch body language and tone - not too excessive, when you praise, it should reflect your normal tone, volume, sarcasm and body language.
• We rarely want to believe praise, so make sure you deliver it confidently

How frequently should you praise:

1. When you want a behavior repeated
2. When you want a behavior to be normalized
3. When you want the behavior to be an exemplar for others
4. When someone who struggles does something good "for them"
5. When someone who behaves well does something extraordinary - like showing unprompted kindness
6. When someone needs a pick me up

Mediocrity - Oh No!

Avoid praise for actions that are easy to preform, are given away too much, or is excessive (hello sincerity).

I like the idea of praising the action or the behavior, not the kid themselves.  I would not recognize that they are  are "smart, brilliant, or amazing", but their effort, work or product certainly is.  

Well, folks, it's nearly Halloween! We made it through "Teacher October".  IYNYN.

Looking forward to sharing more of Running the Room in future blog posts! until then, have a great fall day!